Hello Mr. Costanza, welcome back to the public eye after a few years away.....

TA!

Jay,

You really need to meet different women - ones who will play with YOU.

~C

What firstbrokenangel just wrote (^^).

Another thing, you aren't going to meet likely mates and/or paramours among gay people. I've heard all the arguments about this, but anyone engaging in sexual acts with a person of the same gender is engaging in homosexual acts. Those are the facts. The "bi"sexual tag is just some sort of psychobabble babbling blargh.

You may also be misperceiving someone you enjoy hanging out with and joking around with, with romance -- not exclusive, just that sometimes you find buds you enjoy playing a game of cards with, and then you find someone ELSE you enjoy playing with, differently (cards can be involved but not usually).

I'll try to be a little more clear: you enjoy a game of basketball with people, almost always for men, other men, who you find pleasure interacting with but due to a certain set of reasons, and then you find a few people in life you enjoy physical interactions with on and for very different reasons. I realize that some people confuse the two (not necessarily you).

If you're arriving at the same results (being told by girlfriends that they are 'gay') after the same general set of operations (how and when you became involved with those previous girlfriends, in an emotional sense), then, you need to consider changing your set of operations if you want a different outcome (not becoming involved with women who later reveal that they are gay).

So, start revamping your own motivations and who attracts you and why. You may just prefer to maintain social friendships and not actually WANT a longstanding intimate relationship with a woman (and so you find yourself becoming intimately involved with women you wouldn't if you were, say, considering marriage).

I think you just haven't met your intended yet and are still going about the process of living your life prior to that. So, keep your goals in mind, keep your self worth, and remember that everyone's a unique personality....what someone else decides isn't necessarily what you decide.

We are responsible for our environments, yes, to a great degree -- who our friends are, etc. -- but often you find people involved WITH you and not by your own choice. So, start making your own choices first. Be selective, be purpose driven.

In my life, I've been called everything from 'magical' to completely un-sexy.

It could drive you nuts if you let it.

Just don't take their decisions personally. It really has nothing to do with you.

Whoa!
All of a sudden you are being hit with
"let's analyze that..." by some archair psychologists.
I'll date you Jay and I promise that I am not nor have I ever been on the other side of the fence.
Leave your manhood right where it is sweetie.

A lot of women are only seeking attention from their own insecurities when blame men for the acts of stupidity they committ.
My own father in law who holds a PhD is matters of the mind drives me nuts witht that whole "let's analyze that last statement" routine. It is what it is so everyone should just leave it alone.

I'm male, I'm not gay, and I don't want to date you. If you can say the same thing, then we're on the same team. So, sport, get off the bench and back into the game!

Romanian man cut off his penis, and his dog ate it. ...

I didn't know David Gregory was Romanian...

...and makes the whole "my dog ate my homework" canard somewhat tame...or, lame.

Sidebar: Computer geeks are bin-hexual!

I've never 'putted from the other side of the green' Jay, but I'm secure enough in my heterosexuality to dress up like a Victoria's Secret model and hang out with you at the local dance club if it will help you out.

Warning though, I ain't no sexy bitch....

Wow -- I feel badly for you Jay - I really do. I also feel badly after looking at that last photo posted by Sharp as a Marble. Forget the gay ones and the married ones, mail me Jay. I won't switch fences on you...

(as a side note, that really is me photoshopped onto a VS model...)

You write humor, hon, and everybody gets serious on you but I did say it first and don't waste that tie, it's too funny not to wear!! Meet you at the bar, darlin'

~C

Heheh Jay, love your update. I think she already has a date; her new friend is a pretty brunette. Sorry, Ellen's already taken. LOL :-)

~C

Jay,
Thanks for a WONDERFUL time today, by the way :) (no one has to know that my husband, 4 of my 5 kids and my eldest daughter's boyfriend were along but you and me)... anyway, I had a third-grade love - my first, actually - who turned gay on me when we hit high school. If, in fact, I had ANYTHING to do with that - I don't care. I know how wonderful I am, and it was his loss. I will tell you that in your case(s), which I know fairly well - you are better off. Especially Case #2.