"To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."
Paul, in 2 Corinthians 12:7-9
My cancer is growing. How fast, I cannot say, but it is more difficult now than it was last week, both in what I can do and in terms of pain. I won't dwell on that here, except that it has brought unexpected blessings of perception, perhaps a few insights. That verse from Paul was one I thought I understood, but I have a different take on it now. Obviously, I have no idea what Paul's "thorn in the flesh" was, although I cannot help but consider my similarity when I feel a jab in my side, unexpected and sharp. I imagine Paul thinking from time to time, that maybe he has gotten past the problem, when suddenly he feels it again, maybe when he tries to sleep, maybe while eating, but a nasty reminder that he is never free from it. It seems quite apt to call such a thing a "messenger from Satan, to torment".
But maybe it's not quite the same for me. Where Paul calls his pain a messenger from Satan, I believe mine is a reminder from God. I am reminded that we all must die one day, that all sorts of things we might think are important are really just vanity and selfish pursuits. I am reminded that many people are in pain, sometimes temporary and sometimes permanent, sometimes minor and sometimes a torment, sometimes it seems just part of life which we all must face, and sometimes a singular injustice we did nothing to deserve. On the one hand, I sometimes complain that every time I seem to start getting things to go well in my life, something seems to happen which ruins it all. On the other hand, I have seen children with cancer, and people who found out too late to do anything but wait for death, and I am ashamed of my own complaint. Sometimes I feel that I do not receive what I have worked for, that I am cheated of justice and my right reward, but then I see others who have been cheated to a greater degree, and for much longer, and again I am silenced by that rebuke.
I think about things, especially at night when I am having trouble getting sleep. I realize that I live for a purpose, and I want very badly not to screw up the things that matter. I do not just desire to be a good husband and father, I need to be the best husband and father that I can possibly be. I do not simply want to live in service to God and as a witness to His love, I need to do so. I do not simply wish to help people understand what hope and joy and peace are really like, I need to do my best to help people find those things if they desire them.
Even if I beat this thing, I am aware that the clock is running.
Painfully aware.



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Your final paragraph eloque... (Below threshold)1. Posted by Mike Austin | January 16, 2007 9:46 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
Your final paragraph eloquently describes our human condition. I pray for your recovery, Mr. Drummond. We both desire nothing so much as that His will be done in our lives.
1. Posted by Mike Austin | January 16, 2007 9:46 AM |
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2. Posted by Hugh | January 16, 2007 9:55 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
Dod bless you D.J. My prayers are with you.
H
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3. Posted by Live@9 | January 16, 2007 10:00 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ,
You will be in my prayers. You sound like a very special person and you are an inspiration to those of us lucky enough to read your post today.
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4. Posted by DL From Heidelberg | January 16, 2007 10:05 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
If you have the time and inclination, read "Love, Medicine, and Miracles" by cancer surgeon Dr. Bernie Siegel. The title may be misleading. It's about realizing that no matter what our state of health, our days are numbered, and making the decisions about what we want to do with however much time we have left. Cancer patients, for obvious reasons, understand that message better than most. As a cancer survivor (three operations, five months of chemo, one month of radiation) the book played an enormous part in my understanding of with what was in fact, a blessing.
4. Posted by DL From Heidelberg | January 16, 2007 10:05 AM |
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5. Posted by Mark Roth | January 16, 2007 10:13 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
Thank you, DJ, for a courageous post about your illness, your heart, and your God. Frankly, I never would have imagined such a post here at WizBang (a blog I check frequently every day). I am blessed and encouraged by your post. As you walk through this valley, keep close to the Shepherd . . . and goodness and mercy will surely follow you always.
5. Posted by Mark Roth | January 16, 2007 10:13 AM |
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6. Posted by groucho | January 16, 2007 10:33 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
I'm honored that you've chosen to share your thoughts and feelings during this difficult time. May the encouragement of all lighten your burden. The best to you and your family. You are truly courageous indeed.
6. Posted by groucho | January 16, 2007 10:33 AM |
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7. Posted by Amy | January 16, 2007 10:34 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
My family is praying for you sir. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.
7. Posted by Amy | January 16, 2007 10:34 AM |
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8. Posted by Kim Priestap | January 16, 2007 10:41 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
Beautiful post, DJ. Please know that my husband and I are praying for your recovery.
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9. Posted by WildWillie | January 16, 2007 10:42 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
I will pray for you and your family. You are couragous, strong and a child of God. ww
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10. Posted by The Anchoress | January 16, 2007 11:00 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ, I didn't know you were going through this - I had no idea. Please know you will be in my prayers, daily.
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11. Posted by Diane | January 16, 2007 11:12 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ,
I became aware of the WIZBANG website because of you and Lorie Byrd. Your frequent posts at Polipundit were eloquently written with valid points--much worth following you to here.
You have a special gift for writing. What a wonderful tool to share your thoughts, ideas, lessons, and dreams for your children--whether written in a daily journal form or by topic, your children & future grandchildren will cherish your words.
Any of us could leave this earth any day---your situation obviously brings this thought more into focus. The best gift my parents gave me was the security in knowing that I was truly loved. Though I miss them dearly, I know I will always be all right, AND I do not depend on others for my happiness, because I know I have been loved. It was the best gift ever---better than money for college, etc., because I am a secure person. For years, I thought every kid who grew up (especially in a 2-parent family) felt this security---but not so. So love your kids, and let them know they will be OK no matter what.
In the meantime, may God bless you with good health. I have a feeling you have already touched way more lives than you know--having led and leading them to hope, joy & peace!
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12. Posted by Old Coot | January 16, 2007 11:53 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ: You've been in our prayers since we first heard ot this. Hang in there, savor each moment with those who care for you.
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13. Posted by cathy | January 16, 2007 12:16 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
I will be praying for you DJ. My father-in-law has Multiple Myeloma and I (maybe) am familar with what you are going through. I have never felt people's prayers until this happened with him. I hope you will and can feel people's prayers for you and I hope you find comfort in this. Thanks for sharing Paul's message and yours. I will continue to remember you in my prayers.
13. Posted by cathy | January 16, 2007 12:16 PM |
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14. Posted by Todd | January 16, 2007 12:30 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
I pray that you can overcome and win against this devastating disease. My father passed away last April after a 3 year battle with cancer. The strength you find in your faith is what will carry you regardless of the outcome. I believe the time we spent together over those three years were the best of our lives. Do your best and let the Lord do the rest.
God Bless
14. Posted by Todd | January 16, 2007 12:30 PM |
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15. Posted by cmd | January 16, 2007 12:37 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ - I work in a hospital. I go through this sort of thing every day. Nothing makes it easy. May God bless you, and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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16. Posted by quark2 | January 16, 2007 1:20 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ
Thank you for blessing readers with your message
of love during a challenging time.
You are in my prayers.
May the Lord lift you up.
May He hold you in safety in the
cup of His hand.
May your soul be always with our Father
and the Son.
God Bless You.
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17. Posted by amanda | January 16, 2007 1:35 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
"If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come..." Keep strong in the knowledge that you are in the hand of Him who can do all things...you are in my prayers.
amanda
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18. Posted by Jille | January 16, 2007 4:21 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
I wish you nothing but the very best in what you are doing to be all that you need to be at this perilous time in your life.
My prayers for your well-being. One of my favorite quotes from the Doctor is In
"How many gifts do we have, buried under a hardened armor, awaiting the gracious trauma of a shattered shell?"
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19. Posted by Dirty Harry | January 16, 2007 4:46 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ
My wife and I have admired your thoughtful insights for many years now and followed you and Lori here from Polipundit.
Know you are in our prayers and thoughts.
-DH
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20. Posted by Peter F. | January 16, 2007 6:04 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ:
God be with you and your family, DJ.
If it's of any consolation, and please bare with the whole "me" aspect of my post here for a minute, I know what you mean when it comes to being painfully aware of our finite time here in this world.
I had a heart attack at 33, and a stent implanted in my heart just under two years ago. Every little ache, twinge, sore muscle or even gas bubble in or near my chest reminds me of how precious and fleeting my time is here. Sometimes, when there's some little ache, some little pain any ordinary person might have in their chest and ignore, I think "Crap...is this it? Is this really happening?" It passes, of course. But nevertheless I get consumed by thoughts of my death for a while (especially as of late) and I wonder how long I'll live. I start to feel sorry for myself and get depressed. Worst of all, I lose sight of God (especially as of late).
Then I read something so beautiful as your post here. While I felt self-absorbed and petty for a bit, I also found hope, inspiration and renewal in it. You've given me and others the tender gift of your words and thoughts; words that I really and truly needed to hear. To me, they are a gentle and touching reminder from God through you that I need, no, I must do better as a husband and a servant under God; that I need not worry about what the future holds; that He is there and that whatever happens, I am not alone, He will see me through it, even if that thing is death. All I have to have is faith in Him. And you helped remind me of that.
So, if you can, consider what you've done here as a service to God and fulfilling one of your "needs".
Thank you and may the Peace of Christ be with, DJ. You will definitely be in my prayers.
P.S. Now go kick that cancer's ass!
20. Posted by Peter F. | January 16, 2007 6:04 PM |
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21. Posted by Terry | January 16, 2007 6:26 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
"The Lord bless you, and keep you;
The Lord make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
The Lord lift up His countenance on you,
And give you peace." Number 6:24-26
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22. Posted by Melissa In Texas | January 16, 2007 7:08 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ,
May the Lord bless you.
May He continue to hold you and your family in His loving hands.
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23. Posted by Jennifer | January 16, 2007 7:15 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
It's hard to comment, but I will. My Dad was killed before I was born, so I have always felt an emptiness. Then I married, and had kids. I learned what a Dad was, and a husband. Your comment about your desire to be the best husband and father brings tears to my eyes. They have you now, and thank God, you seem to be exactly what you hope to be. I will add you to my prayers, but in my eyes you seem to be level and directed to the path you need. Don't forget to be true to you.
Jennifer
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24. Posted by drjohn | January 16, 2007 7:19 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
Godspeed, DJ
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25. Posted by shellie | January 16, 2007 10:29 PM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
DJ - I, too, followed you and Lorie to this site. I have admired your thoughtful comments for years. Like you, I have also had cancer myself and more recently my husband as well. At times like these, we are blessed to be aware of our limited lives here on earth. Each of us will die one day. Some of us are blessed by feeling our immortality while we still have time to do the things that are important. Godspeed to you and your family.
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26. Posted by epador | January 17, 2007 1:35 AM | Score: 0 (0 votes cast)
Find your peace every day and rejoice in your family and faith. Amen.
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